Its NOT love,, It is IN Love :)
ok.. here comes the "old and boring yet you never get bored of it" topic..
LOVE?? heck,, what is love??? well.. Im not such great person to know so much about love..
I have been heartbroken and a heart breaker..
sometimes we just didnt realize.. but we are not good at it..
Last time when we were fooling around at the Korean Market buying some groceries.. we happens to walk behind an old couple.. walking slowly while holding hands.. so sweet right...
well what make them so good that they are still devoted to love and can still show this romantic gestures..
So i thought to myself.. to see the reason why people can make it *survive to live with a spouse that is not necessarily up to your expectations, fulls of habits that mite get u feel annoyed and on top of that sooner or later we just drift apart and start to feel boring and arguments never seems to stop...* if they can hurdle that one.. well.. of cause holding hands in their old age is one of the sweet rewards they should receive..
(mental note: for a romantica girl like mua,, holding hands during old age makes u always feel beautiful..)
So back to our topic.. HOW DID THEY DO THAT???
well.. what i like to think is.. what they didnt do that makes them like that..
u see,, in most relationship.. most people say its two people becomes one.. but somehow for me its more likely to think.. two hands becomes four.. its making your life easier,, no matter how tough the life becomes.. it lessen ur burden.. its the cooperation from the sweet sweet love feeling that will be the budding of the sweet sweet happiness.. it will act as a barrier in your heart,, no matter how many times they left the dishes unwashed u gladly wash for them,, within that harmonious time.. you gain and give respect.. you stop being selfish.. and act as one.. that is for me being in love..
but human are never good at it.. cause we tend to doze off.. we sway from the idea of loving just because we are loved.. we tend to take it too easy.. and tend to take advantage..
in the methaforically speaking of two hands becomes four.. we stop using one of our hand.. and do things single handedly.. and that is when four hands return to two.. but the fact is... why people say at that moment it is easier being single is because when u have two mouth to feed and two stomach to fill, yet only two hands at work.. that is when disaster struck.. and the only thing we can see is the bad side of the other.. and always asking for him to do better.. yet never realize that we too had stop using one hand and that is when we are out of love..
the trick is actually simple.. when u find ur true love,, the one that can fill u up at a time,, and the one that can also empty u out at a time,, then it is time to never let go of both hands.. be gentle to her.. never think.. "well maybe its ok if i do this or that".. when you have four hands u r grant two mouth.. that is for u to speak up and talk,, and four ears to listen more than talk,, and two hearts to understands more. Being in love should be easier that way.. Right??
well.. in my case,, we may havent perfected that yet.. but as long as both of us wiling to try,, we will make it work.. we talk more.. we listen more,, we understand more.. we love more..
and yes.. the story of my life is.. i hope one day.. there will be time,, to wake up with him by my side.. prepare the breakfast.. he do the dishes.. prepare his shirt.. tidy up the tie.. kiss his hand before off to work and get a kiss in reply,, leave a note on the bento i packed him.. make his dinner and talk about the day.. quarrel like a married couple and make up like a lover before the night ends so tomorrow we can hold hands again and starts a new day being IN LOVE like the first time we felt it.. ameen...
well what make them so good that they are still devoted to love and can still show this romantic gestures..
So i thought to myself.. to see the reason why people can make it *survive to live with a spouse that is not necessarily up to your expectations, fulls of habits that mite get u feel annoyed and on top of that sooner or later we just drift apart and start to feel boring and arguments never seems to stop...* if they can hurdle that one.. well.. of cause holding hands in their old age is one of the sweet rewards they should receive..
(mental note: for a romantica girl like mua,, holding hands during old age makes u always feel beautiful..)
So back to our topic.. HOW DID THEY DO THAT???
well.. what i like to think is.. what they didnt do that makes them like that..
u see,, in most relationship.. most people say its two people becomes one.. but somehow for me its more likely to think.. two hands becomes four.. its making your life easier,, no matter how tough the life becomes.. it lessen ur burden.. its the cooperation from the sweet sweet love feeling that will be the budding of the sweet sweet happiness.. it will act as a barrier in your heart,, no matter how many times they left the dishes unwashed u gladly wash for them,, within that harmonious time.. you gain and give respect.. you stop being selfish.. and act as one.. that is for me being in love..
but human are never good at it.. cause we tend to doze off.. we sway from the idea of loving just because we are loved.. we tend to take it too easy.. and tend to take advantage..
in the methaforically speaking of two hands becomes four.. we stop using one of our hand.. and do things single handedly.. and that is when four hands return to two.. but the fact is... why people say at that moment it is easier being single is because when u have two mouth to feed and two stomach to fill, yet only two hands at work.. that is when disaster struck.. and the only thing we can see is the bad side of the other.. and always asking for him to do better.. yet never realize that we too had stop using one hand and that is when we are out of love..
the trick is actually simple.. when u find ur true love,, the one that can fill u up at a time,, and the one that can also empty u out at a time,, then it is time to never let go of both hands.. be gentle to her.. never think.. "well maybe its ok if i do this or that".. when you have four hands u r grant two mouth.. that is for u to speak up and talk,, and four ears to listen more than talk,, and two hearts to understands more. Being in love should be easier that way.. Right??
well.. in my case,, we may havent perfected that yet.. but as long as both of us wiling to try,, we will make it work.. we talk more.. we listen more,, we understand more.. we love more..
and yes.. the story of my life is.. i hope one day.. there will be time,, to wake up with him by my side.. prepare the breakfast.. he do the dishes.. prepare his shirt.. tidy up the tie.. kiss his hand before off to work and get a kiss in reply,, leave a note on the bento i packed him.. make his dinner and talk about the day.. quarrel like a married couple and make up like a lover before the night ends so tomorrow we can hold hands again and starts a new day being IN LOVE like the first time we felt it.. ameen...
